Birthday Girl 2018!

Another year, another birthday, another day of celebration of life.  I'm so thankful to be able to celebrate another year and thankful for too much.  They say the secret to having it all is knowing you already do.  I can honestly say I do not need anything and I am thankful for that.  I don't say this is in an arrogant way but more in a grateful way imperfections and all.  On my birthday, I wanted to share what I have learned thus far on 3 different subjects being love/marriage, friendships, and life.  I think I have figured out certain things at this point in my life but I still pray for continuous growth, knowledge, health, prosperity, and more life.


A Touch of a Bow!

Hello and hope you had a great weekend.  I traveled to see my mom and if you saw in my stories, it was for a surprise birthday party for mom.  She is so loving and does a lot for others so it was good celebrating her too.  In the African culture,


STYLE: Greys & a Pop of Neutral!

Hope you had a good weekend! It's funny how sometimes we have plans but it does not go as planned in this case the plan was to go to the pumpkin patch but the weather and other factors affected that.  It was ok because what was important was we were still spending time home with Ella.

About this look, I liked this short suit because the pattern



Hello, hope you are having a great week.  I titled this blessed because of what the T-shirt said but I have to say the t shirt was a nice reminder as I try to be thankful everyday because I am so blessed.  I think we can always find something in every day to feel blessed about. 

Anyway about the look, I wanted an all grey look even if it meant different shades of it. 


STYLE: A Pop Of Red Paper Bag Waist Trousers!

Hello and hope your week has been going great so far.  Mine has been ok but I am ready for the weekend and this weekend, I am supposed to attend a local fashion week show.  I am excited about this because I love fashion clearly and have future plans on attending NYFW or Milan, Lagos or Paris.  Since I have not been able to do so, getting a small taste of it even locally is exciting to me and I'll chat about it next time.

About this look, I love red year round and find that although it is synonymous with holiday season,



Hello! So it's been a few months since I wrote a mommy blog post with the last post being the 5 things I had used the least months into motherhood.  This post will share the few items I have found myself using so much this first year of motherhood and this is just my opinion and not sponsored.  I should just start by saying Ella is now walking all over the place haha, saying some words like dada, thank you, oh oh, this, good girl (because I say it a lot) and it's so amazing to watch the milestones.  Here are some of the items:

1) Sterilizer: here


Lifestyle: Ella's First Birthday Celebration!

 (please do not use my baby's pictures without my written consent, thanks)

Hello and thank you for stopping by! Thanks to all who liked or wished Ella a happy birthday and also to those who celebrated with us.  I'm choosing not to put a lot of pictures of guests for their privacy but very thankful for all who joined us.  These are just a few pictures from the party shot by a friend who does photography and another photographer/videographer.  I'll give a brief run down of the party.  I chose to have it on the Saturday following her birthday.  I sent out birthday card invitations in the mail as opposed to text or email just so they could have a picture of her to keep as a memory.

I had a fellow blogger friend Jordan from Jordan's easy entertaining (also on instagram) help me with the decor and although the pictures don't capture it well, I thought it was beautiful.  I chose to use blush pink, whites and rose golds color theme as opposed to a character theme since she is not quite into any one character yet naturally with the age.  A white tent was in the backyard next to the pool with some floating balloons, a lifeguard on hand, rose gold spray painted vases with pink flowers as centerpieces.  Also there was white tulle with flowers on the gated pool fence.  Inside, we had a beautiful dessert table with cake, cupcakes, candies, and cookies.  There were pink candy baggies so the kids could take candy home as their favor.  Ella had two birthday cakes, one with a rosette style matching her dress was made by Jordan from here and the other cake with her name plaque on it was by Tina's Treats Texas both beautiful and tasted great.  We used balloons, some with confetti, tissue paper pom poms, and paper fan decorations as well as white and pink linens and rose gold plates and cutlery.  It was not intended to be a pool party but towards the end of the party, a lot of the kids got into the pool with their parents and lifeguard watching.  We also had a lot of food, african cuisine, BBQ from Rib Hut, an amazing lit at night jumping balloon in the backyard by the tent, and a lovely vendor who did face painting, balloon animals and made cotton candy which the kids all enjoyed.

I could go on but ultimately I loved every moment of it because we got to celebrate my baby Ella whom Jason and our families are thankful for.  I loved seeing her smile and one of my favorite moments that night was when she joined the others to clap for herself standing and smiling after they sang happy birthday to her.  I pray to God to celebrate many many more future birthdays.
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STYLE: Gold chains & Gold buttons!

Skirt- NY &Co (SimilarSimilar), Heels- Casadei (Similar), Shirt- H&M (Similar), Necklace- Baublebar (Similar), Sunnies- Forever 21 (HereSimilar).

Hope you are having a good friday! It's a long weekend and I am planning to rest at home or at the family's country side home.  I feel drained this weekend and I have to remind myself of how important it is to just have me time when I can and just rest.  I think sometimes we get caught up in work, motherhood, being a wife, friend, etc that we are pulled in many directions which can be draining.  We have to stop and remember to "re-fuel" and different people do different things to refuel.  One of the things I like to do is to have nothing planned and just stay home.  I even try to avoid as many calls and just mentally reduce stimulation.  Another thing which I'll be doing this weekend which I know will help will be taking a break from the city and going to the country side approximately 2-3 hrs away up in the mountains which is just more calming.  I'll look forward to going for walks and just relaxing at the cabin with family.  Is there something you do to "refuel"?

About this look, I have to say I loved this skirt and I'm already thinking of ways to re style it.  I wanted the focus on the skirt and it's gold accents so I added the gold necklace, gold sunnies with one of my closet staples for fall and year round, the white button down shirt.  Hope you like the look and thanks for reading!
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MOTHERHOOD: What motherhood has taught me so far!

My baby is one and without going too much into a long emotional post, I’ll just say I’m so very thankful for her and this milestone. She are brought so much joy to the family and we are grateful for our blessing being her.  She’s walking, she’s saying a few words like dada, thank you, oh oo, and stool potty trained. 

Motherhood has taught me a lot and it’ll continue to do so I’m sure but I wanted to share a few of the things it's taught me.

-Deep/Unconditional love: I’ve thought I knew love yes but not the purest, deepest, most unconditional love I had ever experienced.  I am more happy when my baby smiles and is happy than anything/anyone else has made me. I feel her hurt when she’s not feeling her best, I’m bothered when she cries, I’m tired sometimes but I want to keep at it with her. The love is just unconditional.
-Taught me who I am: I have not been perfect since becoming a mother but it’s made me strive to be better each day. Motherhood has made me realize that although I would like to spend every moment with her, I like being a working (even a few hrs a wk), independent mother.  It forces me to answer those hard questions I ask myself and by doing so, knowing myself better.  It’s made me appreciate freedom, and just life even more.
-Patience: I’m more patient and even when she’s fussy and just throwing a mini tantrum, I’m not as frustrated as I could be.  I look at how innocent she is, and I realize it’s all a part of the process, and I deal with it patiently.  I’m also more patient with my hubby, at work and in more aspects of my life.  
-Appreciate me/alone time: I have my closet room where I like to go and mess with my clothes/shoes/bags/jewelry and with her, I’m hardly in there. But when I have some alone time, I appreciate it so much more now because they are fewer. I sometimes go in there and try on stuff in my closet as my alone time.  I enjoy going to get manicures, with my alone time. Even just being in the toilet now is alone time I appreciate haha
-My life will never be the same: I am always thinking of her, her well being.  At work, I try my best to protect myself so I don't get sick and take it home to her.  When we travel, I have a good time but it's like incomplete without her there.  I think of the nanny watching her and pray she is not neglectful (watching with cameras helps too).  When she sleeps, I go and check on her.  I pray for her everyday or try to.  I am constantly rushing with anything or anywhere to get back to her but I know I need to find a balance.
These are a few to share for now although I'm sure I'll think of more soon and will share at some point.  Thanks for reading!     

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STYLE & THOUGHTS: High Low Dress & Bow Heels!

Dress- NY & Co (HereSimilarSimilar), Shoes- Aminah Jillil (Here), Bag-old (Similar).

Hope your week is going great! So I decided I'd be sharing some more important things on my blog and this is one especially with having a daughter.  Can you guess one thing I hated about myself growing up? My big eyes.  I had been teased about them as a child and hated them for that reason but I grew to accept them, love them and actually when I get my makeup done, I ask for more eye makeup to enhance them even more.  I'm glad I got to this point because my daughter has my big eyes.  I can't imagine if I still hated my eyes and having to stare at hers and love them everyday.  Although my mom taught me at a young age my eyes were beautiful and it somewhat helped when I faced my teasing, I will do the same even more with my daughter.  I will teach her from a young age that her big eyes are beautiful, that I love them so if she is ever teased about them or any other features, she already has a solid foundation that they are big yet beautiful.  My point is, we should love our features and accept them for making us who we are and pass that on to our children.

With this look, I wanted to style this comfortable high low fit and flare shirt dress so I paired it with a few blue pieces being the blue bow heels and bag to match.  This fit and flare dress is so easy to wear comfortable and can be dressed up or down.  Hope you like, thanks for viewing!
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STYLE & THOUGHTS: Striped 2 piece & the importance of reading!

Trousers and blouse- New York & Company (Here, Here, Similar, Similar), Heels- Shoe dazzle (Similar, Similar).

No Monday blues here, just some colorful stripes.  Happy new week! So I attended a fun blogger get together this past weekend and it made me think of what I want to continue sharing on my blog . Yes I’ll still continue to share a lot of style posts, some mommy posts but I also want to incorporate some other important things I think about.     

For example, I’ve been thinking of how little people are reading books, news papers or listening to reliable news sources besides just social media.  People down play education but don’t get it twisted it’s important.  Fewer people are going to libraries and getting newspapers and I hope these don’t slowly fade away.  I want to eventually take Ella to a library and pick out some books, read and return. I think this generation can tell you the name of every Kardashian but someone I had chatted with didn’t realize Italy was in Europe and not to mention all the innocently ignorant questions I get about Africa.  One thing I dislike but I choose to be patient with is when people refer to Africa like it's one country and don't realize it's a huge continent with different races, cultures, religions,languages and more.  Some used to ask questions like are there cars there or think every African is like what they see on national geographic of some remote villagers with piercings under their mouths with little clothing on.  Yes there are mansions in Africa, wealthy people, roads, trains, luxury cars etc but the opposite exists also.  I pray for this continent with undistributed wealth and such potential to be greater than it is and for better leadership.  

Anyway I'll get back on track of the focus of this post being the importance of reading and simply just educating our selves and families especially in an age where social media has such a huge presence and seems to be everywhere you turn.  I also see how some even try to "downplay" the importance of education and talk about quick social media entrepreneurship, wealth and for some fame.  Yes it can happen to some, the wealth and fame from social media but not for most.  And nothing with trying to get to any through this avenue but you can still do that while educating yourself.  One thing I know is, knowledge from reading has stood the test of time and will continue to do so for we do not know the future of social media and such.  The point is, keep reading and gaining knowledge on important issues

About the outfit, I loved the relaxed feel of the wide leg trousers and off the shoulder blouse.  As I have mentioned in the past, co-ord 2 piece outfits are great when you just want to put a quick outfit together without thinking of other pieces to pair with although both pieces can be paired with other items.  I also added white heels to keep the look bright and summery.  Hope you like it and thanks for reading!.    
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